How To Get Over Your Crush
You have liked the same guy for a very long time, you feel that he likes you too. The two of you are always flirting back and forth. You wanted to make something more from your friendship, you thought he did also. Then it happens…you and your friends are out one night and you spot him kissing another woman and it is a woman that you know. After this night you hear that he has been seen all over town with a lot of different women. You now feel hollow inside, you feel like crying every time that you see him. You really believed that there was something there between you two, now you know that it will never happen. Now is the time to get over your crush.
You could take this advice: The only thing that can cure a crush is time and tell yourself that this guy is nothing more than a playboy.
The only way to get over your crush is to let go of your idealized version that you had made up for him in your heart. It is no doubt that you are crushing on this guy that you made out of wishful thinking and very hopeful expectations. It’s time to face reality…this is a guy who didn’t like you well enough to date you! What you felt was meaningful to you (all that flirting), was probably just a way for this man to get in some shameless female attention.
Yes, you have all these ideas on why he didn’t choose to date you, but you know what…when it comes down to the nitty gritty…he just didn’t want to date you! You need to let go of that silly idea that the “cosmic forces” are keeping the two of you apart. Because, as long as you feel that outside influences are keeping the both of you from getting together, you may never get over this guy. There was only one force keeping the both of you apart and that force was him.
There really is no trick on letting go of an idealized person. You can let go of people very easily… hope…is not that easy to let go of.
For a time, you need to arrange that you not see him, talk to him, or have any contact with him whatsoever. Lock yourself into a no-contact rule. Go out of your way not to see him or talk to him. Make it point to not be in places that you know that he will be. Yes, time and distance will lessen any intensity that you feel, and this will happen gradually.
As far as playboys go, some women just want to feel that they are special and unique enough to uncover a playboy’s heart of gold through a pile of mud…and turn him into a nice guy. I feel that some women think their worth lies in how well they can “help” somebody or “change” them with the power of love.
Ladies, digging through the mud rarely turns up a heart of gold! The mud shores may be somebody else’s treasure, but if this guy presents himself as mud…there is no point for digging for this treasure he doesn’t want you to have. All you will get is muddy hands and a broken heart.
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